Some people believe that there are two types of nudist resorts: 1) All out orgies everywhere, or 2) No touching whatsoever or you get kicked out.
In reality, most nudist resorts are somewhere in the middle. Most resorts allow, and expect, that couples will show appropriate affection for one another. A small kiss, holding hands, or hugs are not a problem. Going beyond simple displays of affection into the land of sexual displays are prohibited. That’s not what nudism is about, and most people don’t want to see couples making out in public. Activities that cross the line from affection to sexual will be addressed by management, and if the activity continues, would lead to expulsion from the resort.
While nudists agree that nudism is not about sex, we also understand that couples have non-sexual affection for one another that shouldn’t be left at the front gate.
(Original found on Tumblr, posted by www.HeartlandNaturists.com, and too good not to share here.)
Paul, I saw this post before and I liked the easy closeness of the couple. Nudists who have a partner should be able to show reasonable affection in public. I like the description of what is not tolerated in a nudist resort (or even in a group of nudists). You are right in this post as a reminder. Thanks!
Thanks for posting this, I think this is a topic that ought to be discussed more in naturist circles. I am much more comfortable when casual displays of affection are permissible. I would go so far as to say that being free to display affection helps to show that naturists are no different from textiles, other than the fact that we enjoy socializing sans clothes. My “home” resort is tolerant of such displays as well as single men, tattoos, and body piercings and jewelry. I have seen nothing i would consider inappropriate there which makes it difficult for me to understand why such things would be banned in the first place. Shouldn’t we be judged on our behavior and not our appearance? Isn’t that one of naturism’s principles, that one is not judged by how they look?
Sexual behavior should be forbidden, but affection/touching should be allowed whether clothed or not. I see lots of people giving friendly hugs or affectionate touching all the time. If touching starts to lead to making out or sexual arousal, it should be taken to somewhere private. A resort I have been visiting the last couple of years has those same rules.
Excellent post and picture. How a lovimg couple enjoys being naked free and amongst others. If they want to go further they can go where they won’t be seen
I have been to one place where there was no such restriction but the important thing was that everyone was informed BEFORE entering and it was not a free-for-all sort of situation with couples making whoopie everywhere, just that when walking about, you might come upon a couple or some new friends enjoying each others company, so to speak.
(rant incoming)
The important thing is that as naturists & nudists, we are aware that the purpose of what we do is to connect to ourselves, to others and to nature. We live our lives naked (or as naked as possible) because it is our preferred natural state. It should NEVER be seen as an open invitation (and that goes back to the societal double-standard regarding nudity and sexuality and posts you have made on that subject) for things and naturist resorts or the like should not end up being just some place that the Clothed among us view as hedonistic sex clubs- that is their wrong interpretation which comes from the ironic and silly taboo and belief that seems to almost always equate nudity with sex.
sex is wonderful, but when i have sex i am not thinking about hiking or reorganising my bookshelf, so why do people have to instantly equate our natural state of being with something that is entirely personal, involved and an action of love or lust? Because by default, we’re taught to cover our bodies to fit societal opinions, that the act of removing clothes is seen as bad, and as with other things in life such as smoking, drinking or risky behaviour, it is the perceived “badness” which makes it attractive.
If clothed peoples spend a day or a week at a retreat or resort, their minds will be changed permanently. With no Men running around with raging “members” and no women laying about in an perpetually damp fashion they might stop noticing body parts and perhaps maybe begin to notice the people..
we have nothing to hide! (pun intended!)
That is actually a very good closing comment: “begin to notice people”.
I heard a Dutch podcast a few days ago, in which a lady said: “when I am at a naturist resort, I feel like a person, not like ‘a woman’. People look at me and talk to me, instead of staring at my breasts.”
in a world of 8 billion people, of people living side by side without knowing each other let alone percieving their existence or that they live lives just as complicated and fascinating as our own, the concept of “Noticing others” seems so rudimentary and simple…. yet it’s everything <3
Indeed. It strikes me that people have to be taken out of ‘today’s normal’ to see that.
After all, those who prefer not to wear clothes aren’t normal, right? And exactly that makes that we ‘see’ each other, instead of gape at what they’re wearing.
This is where ‘oel ngati kameie’, from Avatar and the Na’vi language comes in. I -see- you. I see -inside- you.
Oel ngati kameie.
that’s beautiful n yeah it was a very special special moment.. pretty sure i’m not the only one who got a bit teary-eyed <3